Friday, December 5, 2008
2. Communicate your needs without excuses or disclaimers at the beginning, such as "well, this may not really be important" or "I may be making a big deal out of nothing".
A person behaving aggressively states her feelings directly, but she violates the rights of others. For example, suppose a neighbor asks you to baby-sit her four children and you don't want to.
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Friday, November 21, 2008
If you want to put your relationships onto a more assertive footing, and earn more respect from others, there's no better way to do it than to use the following 7 verbal techniques.
Thursday, October 2, 2008
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Friday, August 29, 2008
That is, self-confidence is not something innate - it can be taught, nurtured and built over the years, at any stage in life. By using the exercise below, you will prove just that! Let me share two other things with you...
Friday, August 8, 2008
Comprehensive and enlightening, Wounded Boys Heroic Men is also a guide to help partners, friends, and family members better understand the struggles these men face, so that they can support the healing journey. Dr. Sonkin's message is simple: With help, healing is possible.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Monday, July 21, 2008
Saturday, July 19, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
- his partner to feel genuine respect for him and want to be with him rather than a relationship based on fear or duty
- a family which is fair and based on trust and caring
- his children's admiration and respect rather than their fear or resentment
- to set an example his children would want to follow
- to stop hurting the ones he loves
- to be true to himself to find genuine self-respect
Book can be downloaded from - http://www.hma.co.nz/Publications/Feeling-angry-playing-fair.asp
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Sunday, June 1, 2008
Monday, May 26, 2008
Saturday, May 17, 2008
Monday, May 12, 2008
Motivation is our desire or level of energy to do something. Our motivation comes from within us, it is our drive based on our desire to achieve something, to do something, or to become something. Motivation also comes from outside us e.g. other people, events, actions of others.
Saturday, May 10, 2008
It affects a person's thoughts, feelings and actions. Although we all experience fear of rejection to a certain degree, for some it has become a problem and has major implications in every aspect of their life.
Monday, May 5, 2008
Understand this. The quality of information you receive will be directly related to the quality of the questions you ask. Sloppy, imprecise questions attract sloppy, imprecise answers. Some managers think that because they're managers, staff will tell them exactly what they need to know. Sadly, it just isn't so.
Saturday, May 3, 2008
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Wednesday, April 30, 2008
Friday, April 18, 2008
I call that voice the inner-critic voice. I have named my inner-critic Fred, so I can actually converse with that critical part of myself and put "him" where it belongs - not in charge of my life!
Saturday, April 12, 2008
Saturday, April 5, 2008
1. Clarify matters that remain unclear.
Are you stuck because you are in a mental fog? How can you possibly move forward with confidence if you don't know where you are headed? What exactly are you doing and what end result are you seeking? Resolve these issues!
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Tuesday, March 18, 2008
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Friday, March 7, 2008
Reproduced in accordance with NSW Mental Health Association requirements - check out their site
Options for use - copy the image to a word or openoffice document and expand the size, print it off and put it on the wall or, use the image as your computer wallpaper/background. Pass the image on to your colleagues or friends.
Monday, March 3, 2008
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Have you ever sat in a meeting where everyone is busy giving their point of view and trying to prove why they are right? Where no one is actually listening or trying to understand other individualsâ€™ points of view. The alternative meeting format is where everyone listens to and agrees with the meeting leader. No one contributes or adds ideas, they are just compliant.
You've tried everything, you've listen to the experts, in frustration you shout out, "Why can't I seem to figure this out?" This can be stated for many areas in life, whether you are working on health, finances, business, improved communication skills or relationships. Quite often when we start out on the path to change one or more areas of our lives, we hit stumbling blocks and set backs.
Friday, February 22, 2008
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Anger Work - a workbook for men (PDF format, 49 pages)
Me, Angry - a resource for women (PDF format, 36 pages)
Monday, February 18, 2008
Reframing is looking at the situation with a new set of eyes. Its asking your self if you have a clear picture of the situation and of what is happening around you.Many people get so caught up in a situation that they take on the other persons issues as their own. When you can remain calm, take a step back, you can ask your self, am I seeing this issue clearly or can I look at it differently?
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Change is certain and constant. Benjamin Franklin would have been wise to add "change" to his adage that "death and taxes are the only certainties of life."
We are inundated every day with new relationships, new ways to do things, new expectations and new information. The total of all knowledge doubles every five years. It has been estimated that 75 percent of all current workers will need retraining by the year 2010; today's high school graduates will have to be prepared to change jobs or careers at least 10 times in their lifetimes.
It is important to have your own values, beliefs and understanding of the world around you and not let fear take hold of you.
The quote, "My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened." By Michel de Montaigne, has been repeated many times by different authors. It drives home the point that sometimes we can be our own worst enemies.
The statistics show, that 80% of our thoughts are negative and most are repeated.