Assertive Communication - 6 Tips For Effective Use

What IS assertive communication?

Assertive communication is the ability to express positive and negative ideas and feelings in an open, honest and direct way. It recognises our rights whilst still respecting the rights of others. It allows us to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions without judging or blaming other people. And it allows us to constructively confront and find a mutually satisfying solution where conflict exists.

The Importance of Understanding Conflict Resolution

Conflict exists throughout environments of all kinds. In the workplace, no matter how much you attempt to avoid it, if you work with people the chances are you will have to deal with conflict at some point. People coming from different viewpoints and experiences, and having different perceptions, are not going to agree all the time.

Anger Management Self Help - Learn to Control Your Anger Before it Controls You

Do you know how to deal with your anger in everyday situations? All of us get angry once in a while, it's a necessary emotion triggered by the human's "fight or flight" mechanism. Learning to cope with anger before it goes to far is extremely important for your mental and physical health. These health problems could include heart disease, stroke, or even depression.

Anger – Does Counseling Help

It takes some time for someone who gets angry frequently to finally get their senses up and start visiting any help they can get. A good way to start off may be a local doctor, but in most of the time the doctor will send you to a counselor to help you in controlling your temper.

How technology can help with anger

Visual reminders offer a powerful way to assist us change our behaviour. Many of the people I work with as a counsellor are looking for easy to apply and effective techniques that they can try in addressing their anger issues. The purpose of this article is to provide a step by step guide as to how technology can be used as a visual tool for anger behaviour issues.

Conflict

The attached article provides information on conflict; from a definition, along with understanding the impact conflict has on communication, the stages of conflict as well as management strategies for conflict. pdf article.

How Much Damage Can Verbal Abuse Do to Your Self-Esteem?

Verbal abuse is not always the obvious loud and shouting kind, with clearly meant open mean and cruel insults being made. Verbal abuse can also be more subtle. The type that takes its tool over a period of time that gradually builds up the pressure until your self esteem crumbles. You may hear shouting from your neighbours, things like "every day for two years you have just keep going on about the same thing".

Assertive Communication - 10 Tips For Expressing Yourself Assertively

1. Think before you speak. The first step is to be clear within yourself as to what you want to say.

2. Communicate your needs without excuses or disclaimers at the beginning, such as "well, this may not really be important" or "I may be making a big deal out of nothing".

Aggressive, Assertive of Passive?

Assertiveness is a method of communication that lets others know your ideas and feelings, while respecting their feelings as well.

A person behaving aggressively states her feelings directly, but she violates the rights of others. For example, suppose a neighbor asks you to baby-sit her four children and you don't want to.

Don't Blame the Reflection

Many times we can sit and ask ourselves why things aren't going right in our lives. We tend to blame things outside of ourselves and try to find the answers there as well. Blaming the reflection will not bring you the things that you crave in your life. So what will? That's what this article discusses.

Clean Up Your Language With These 7 Assertive Techniques

Use this 7-point assertive language guide to get your unsatisfactory relationships back on track.

If you want to put your relationships onto a more assertive footing, and earn more respect from others, there's no better way to do it than to use the following 7 verbal techniques.

Conflict Resolution Strategies in the Workforce

Conflict in the work environment is inevitable. When two or more people have to work together and combine ideas, the doorway of conflict is ever open. The goal is to learn how to use conflict as a tool that can benefit the whole, rather than destroy it and the idea of concern. A team must have a common goal of success (Temme and Katzel, 1995).

Technology helps with Anger Issues !

Visual reminders offer a powerful way to assist us change our behaviour. Many of the people I work with as a counsellor are been looking for easy to apply effective techniques that they can try in addressing their anger issues. The purpose of this article is to provide a step by step guide as to how technology can be used as a visual tool for anger management.

Feeling Angry Playing Fair (1998) by Ken McMaster - online book

Feeling Angry Playing Fair is an excellent resource for any man who really wants :

• his partner to feel genuine respect for him and want to be with him rather than a relationship based on fear or duty


• a family which is fair and based on trust and caring


• his children's admiration and respect rather than their fear or resentment


• to set an example his children would want to follow


• to stop hurting the ones he loves


• to be true to himself to find genuine self-respect

Book can be downloaded from - http://www.hma.co.nz/Publications/Feeling-angry-playing-fair.asp

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How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

Learning to control your anger is an important trait for anyone to have. This is due to the fact that suffering from excess rage can gravely harm your health, career, social life, and family life. Let's face it, no one likes to be around an angry person. Anger drives people away.

Assertiveness to Ease Anxiety

The problem is non-assertive individuals often go out of their way to avoid a clash of heads, leaving them to stew in silence with their frustrations and anxiety. From time to time biting your tongue can be a shrewd move, but when it becomes the default behaviour there will be a loss confidence and self-esteem. This can also lead to a build up of frustration which can lead to feelings of anger and resentment.

Anger Management Online Book

Anger as an emotion has a significant impact on the lives of so many people. For some, formal anger management programs might be mandated by the courts or other agencies.

Anger Work - a workbook for men (PDF format,  49 pages)

Me, Angry - a resource for women (PDF format, 36 pages)

Dissolving Conflict Through Reframing

Reframing is looking at the situation with a new set of eyes. Its asking your self if you have a clear picture of the situation and of what is happening around you.Many people get so caught up in a situation that they take on the other persons issues as their own. When you can remain calm, take a step back, you can ask your self, am I seeing this issue clearly or can I look at it differently?

Anger - 7 Steps For Melting Anger On The Spot

Article by Brenda Shoshanna

Anger is a lethal force that undermines our lives in all kinds of ways. Sometimes it erupts openly and other times anger camouflages it and covertly undermines your life. Some experience anger as strength and power. They feel it is necessary in order to maintain control. Others assume they have the right to express anger towards those in their lives. These are some of the lies anger tells us. In fact, when we are angry we are out of control and our ability to respond wisely is diminished.

Anger - Top Ten Ways of Moving Through

Article  by Johanna Vanderpol

Our culture makes anger a dirty word. Yet, it is an emotion that deserves attention. Because it has not received the proper attention, it is responsible for coming out "all wrong" and come out it will. The way to manage anger is by recognizing it as a valid emotion with a purpose. Next time you are angry, look at it as a form of information that has a message for you. Determine the message and act in a way that satisfies the message with self-respect and respect for others.