Saturday, May 17, 2008

How To Control Your Anger Before It Controls You

Learning to control your anger is an important trait for anyone to have. This is due to the fact that suffering from excess rage can gravely harm your health, career, social life, and family life. Let's face it, no one likes to be around an angry person. Anger drives people away.

walking aloneBut the problem is that knowing how to control your anger isn't something which is most people find easy to do. They require some guidance. I hope this article will help.

Ways to control your anger

1. Recognize the source - The first step in your quest for complete anger control management is to recognize the sparks of your anger. What drives you stark raving mad? It could be anything, large or small, but you need to be aware of it. If you weren't seeking for a way to deal with your anger you wouldn't be reading this article, so I imagine you have some sense of the situations in which you get mad. Think about it and write them all down.

2. What are you really angry about - Often, our first impression isn't like our second or third. The same can be true for your anger sparks. What is really the source of your anger? Often we get mad at something and we have no idea why. Often, the real reason is a little deeper. You need to really think about each of the situations you wrote down in step #1 and consider what is the real reason you got angry that time. Now, you'll be able to see things for what they really are.

3. Make a commitment to yourself - Each road you take starts with you. You need to be absolutely determined to get control over your anger. You can do it. You weren't born angry. But this may be a difficult process and you need to be willing to put a lot of yourself into it.

4. Make a commitment to your loved ones - Often, our anger hurts our loved ones. Make them a part of the process and they will provide you with the support that you need. Don't be embarrassed, what you're doing here is something to be proud of.

5. Seek some sort of treatment - Anger management isn't easily acquired. I recommend that you get some sort of treatment. It doesn't have to be costly therapy sessions. There are a number of easy online options to choose from. Even a book on the subject can help you on your way to a complete victory over this condition. Take what you learned in step #2 and apply what you learn from the treatment you get.

I hope these 5 steps will help you to control your anger and lead a healthier and happier life.

Article by Mike Eltis who writes extensively on psychological issues.

Additionally - resources for anger


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  1. Anger is a powerful emotion, but it is an emotion. I have discovered with a number of the men I work with that anger is an emotion that is displayed, when they are feeling sad or hurt. For many men it is more difficult to say I am in pain than to be angry.

    What are your thoughts?

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