It's easy to be positive, when the circumstances and people surrounding you are all positive; but what if you're surrounded by negativity? How do you then stay positive? This is an issue that everyone who values their feelings and emotions will come up against.
How's Your Perception? - It really all comes down to what's going on in your head: your thoughts, perceptions and beliefs about the situations and people surrounding you. When you look around different people often respond very differently to similar circumstances and you will note that they experience different outcomes. So maintaining positive energy in a negative environment is about how you perceive that environment. It's your thoughts that cause your feelings, and also the stress reaction in your body.
Look at the Big Picture - Really any situation you can name has positivity in it if you look at the big picture (and I mean the cosmic picture!). It's really difficult for humans, living a physical, earth-bound experience to see the positivity in things like natural disasters and terrorist acts; but if nothing else, these happenings give many the excuse they were crying out for to release resistance and return to source. Many have not yet learned how to release resistance while remaining in their physical bodies.
Your Inner Being is Positive - It's important to realise that your default setting is positivity, that is, the default setting of your inner self is pure positive energy. Your physical self is actually more prone to negativity as part of the survival mechanisms wired into your brain. So the more you plug into your inner being and turn off your auto pilot, the more positive you will become. It's like tuning into a new positive vibe radio station more often and tuning into the bad news channel less often.
The Breathing Space - Simple breathing techniques are an amazingly powerful way to relax and quiet your mind, and therefore release negative thought. The 'breathing space' technique is a wonderful quick fix that you can use easily wherever you are. Bring your mind to focus on your body and sit up straight. Become aware of the thoughts flowing through your mind, the emotions you're experiencing and the sensations in your body. Accept yourself exactly as you are in this moment. Now bring your attention to your breath, simply watching it in your mind's eye, flowing in and out in its natural rhythm. Now bring your attention to any sensations in your body and the space around your body, again with full acceptance.
This process brings you back into the now and switches off the autopilot, and helps you to know that all is well.
Understand the Creative Process - It helps to know the universal laws that govern our lives in order to see positivity in everything. The creative process is the process by which we create (either consciously or by default) our life experience. When you decided to come into a physical body, you knew you would experience great variety, more in this era than in any previous time in history. You knew that by experiencing what you don't want, you send a vibrational request to source for what you do want, and that is created. Then you just need to get in sync with the vibration of what you do want by focussing on that, instead of on what you don't want.
Focus on What You Want - Basically, whatever you give your attention to, you get into vibrational sync with. The thing is if you get stuck in this first phase of the creative process, you just keep manifesting more of what you don't want. Once you have experienced the unwanted situation, you need to consciously turn your focus on the opposite of that and believe that it can be true for you. So any situation is positive, because it causes you to create a better situation, you just need to get into sync with it so you can experience it.
What Can You be Grateful For? - The vibration of the feeling of gratitude and appreciation is the vibration of source. Consciously cultivating what some call an 'attitude of gratitude' is a powerful tool for positivity. It is a case of looking for things in your negative environment to be grateful for. If you have problems at work, maybe you can appreciate your pay and other benefits and the friendships you have there. If your negative environment is a difficult relationship, is there some aspect there? At very least you can appreciate that person for prompting you to create a great relationship!
Look for Solutions - Looking for solutions and acting in that direction is empowering and will help you to feel more positive in your negative environment. Getting stuck in 'victim' mode will drain your positive energy very quickly. What's the root cause of the negativity in your environment? Is there anything you can do to improve the situation? Sometimes there won't be anything you can do and you will just need to accept the situation or walk away.
Look for the Lesson - Life's experiences mirror back to us what we think and believe. So there is always a lesson to be learned hidden in every circumstance. The law of attraction states that talking on the level of vibration or energy, like attracts like. So you can know that what you are experiencing is a vibrational match to your chronic vibration. If you are stuck in a negative environment it may be that you've been giving lots of attention to the negative aspects of that environment and therefore syncing your vibration with that negativity. So the generic lesson that can be learned from any negative experience is: learn to consciously control your vibration so you can gradually attract more wanted things into your experience. There may also be a specific lesson to be learned from the detail of your negative environment, such as are you perceiving something or someone overly negatively?
What Emotions are For - Your emotions are your guidance system to let you know how you are vibrating in relation to your inner being, which has a consistently high vibration. If your vibration is low, you will feel negative emotions like depression, fear and rage, because there is a big gap between your vibration and that of your inner being. That gap is what causes the negative emotions. Conversely, if your vibration is high, you will feel positive emotions like love, joy and appreciation, because you are in vibrational sync with your inner being. Of course there are also many level between these two extremes.
Awareness is Empowering -Really, what I want to communicate is that there is value in every life experience (and I write as someone who has experienced some pretty painful stuff!). It is really the awareness of how the world works on a vibrational level that will empower you to reduce the number and severity of negative experiences in your life, and increase the positivity. It can be hard to have positive energy in a negative environment, but understanding that you have control over your thoughts and therefore control over your experience is really the great lesson of life that will hopefully help you to maintain positive energy in all situations.
Article by Frances Copping is an Emotion Coach and Mentor based in the UK.
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